Pillars of Spiritual Life 

We strive to grow daily in Christian virtue, whatever our future vocation may be.


The spiritual goals for life here are simply Catholic Christian. To help the residents grow in their faith life, we propose the Evangelical Counsels of Poverty, Chastity, and Obedience, lived according to the state in life of the person discerning his or her vocation. The Evangelical Counsels are deep wells from which to draw virtue and inspiration. A discerner might begin to grow in these virtues by practicing the following:


  • We recommend that you find a prayer schedule that works for you. If you need guidance, your house parent and/or chief of staff will be happy to help!

  • You are highly encouraged to join us for the Divine Office (a.k.a. Liturgy of the Hours). Don’t worry if you've never prayed it. We can help. We understand if you are unable to join us because of work or other obligations. 

  • Residents are encouraged to attend daily Mass as often as possible. If you can’t get yourself there, the chief of staff or house parent may be able to take you.

  • Regular Spiritual Direction is strongly recommended. If you don't have a spiritual director, your house parent or chief of staff may be able to help you find one. 


  • Use common items such as water, heat, and electricity with moderation.

  • Try to avoid bringing excessive possessions with you when you come and accumulating more than you can neatly store in your room.

  • Keep common areas clean, tidying up after yourself when necessary.



  • Dating is allowed for those discerning marriage, but please do not have your date at the house except for pick-up/drop-off. 

  • Avoid foul language and humor in speech and in media, especially media audible to others.

  • Pornography is absolutely forbidden. Its use will result in immediate expulsion.

  • Dress modestly whether in the house or in public. 



  • Let the house parent and chief of staff know about your work schedule and other engagements. 

  • Let the house parent and chief of staff know ahead of time if you will be away overnight.

  • Be diligent and respectful during your volunteer hours. 

  • Stick to commitments made to the house and to your own spiritual life. 



  • Moral behavior in line with Church teaching is expected.

  • Use of illicit drugs is forbidden.


Fraternal Charity

Besides basic respect of other residents, you can foster fraternal charity by:

  • Attending common meals when you are able

  • Attending house discernment talks and other community events

  • Praying for the community and the Confraternity

  • Refraining from gossip